This week marks the start of the ‘Look At All The Women’ Blogging Carnival to celebrate the launch of the book of the same name by Cathy Bryant. What makes this extra special to me, is I illustrated the book cover. Finally I can shout about it! So without further ado….
Welcome to the ‘Look At All The Women’ Carnival: Week 1 – ‘The Lovers’
This post was written especially for inclusion in the three-week-long ‘Look At All The Women’ carnival, hosted by Mother’s Milk Books, to celebrate the launch of Cathy Bryant’s new book ‘Look At All The Women’. This week our participants share their thoughts on the theme ‘The Lovers’ (the first chapter in Cathy’s poetry collection).
Please read to the end of the post for a full list of carnival participants.
CREATIVE LOVERS: NOT TONIGHT DARLING
Let’s set the scene. Hubby in bed, topless, lying on his side, resting his head on his hand, accentuating the bulge of his bicep. Wife-y, laying next to him, black negligee, long hair tousled around her shoulders and freshly shaven legs.
She peers longingly at it in her hand. He caresses it lightly with his fingers. They both start vibrating….
Simultaneously, with the touch of one finger they bring it closer to their mouths…
And so they continue their conversations on their mobile phones to impatient friends and family. Sound familiar?
This is the not so romantic picture I have often found myself in. Mobile phones in bed. Arrrgggg this is so wrong! It has to stop!
Hubby and I are so guilty of checking tweets, emails or playing with our apps into the night. Before long we’ve wasted an hour being intimate with our vibrating, beeping gadgets rather than with each other.
I’m turned on most of the day. By my phone. Turned on and tuned in.
Family and work life take their toll on us. We forget we are more than mothers, fathers, colleagues, friends. We are lovers. Passionate lovers who need to feel the power of touch from a loved one. Technology will never surpass this basic human need.
I’ve recently been watching and am addicted to ‘Orange is the New Black’. One scene really struck a cord with me. After a rocky start to time in prison, our heroine, Piper says she simply misses being touched.
Oh stop giggling at the back…
To be touched, a hug, a peck on the cheek, holding hands. As I said, it’s a basic human need. Children thrive on caring hugs and kisses from a parent. Or, do you remember those days as a teenager holding hands with your sweetheart. Even the classic ‘man hug’.
We need these physical exchanges. We would be emotionally lost without them.
As parents, we let the daily pressures of work and family life, literally grind us down. Let us not forget how we made our children in the first place! Let us not forget that we are sensual, sexual beings who need to mutually express that with those we love. Indulge your passion!
So put this laptop/mobile phone/tablet down. Roll over and give your wife, husband, your lover a kiss. You deserve to be loved tonight 😉
Footnote: I apologise to my hubby for this intimate post and any embarrassment caused. I was originally going to write about indulging our passions as creative people. But I just couldn’t resist writing something a little more intimate…I hope it inspires you and your lover!
Look At All The Women by Cathy Bryant
Look At All The Women is now available to buy from:
The Mother’s Milk Bookshop (as a paperback and PDF) – we can ship books around the world!
and as a paperback from Amazon.co.uk.
It can also be ordered via your local bookshop.
If you’d like to get involved in the ‘Look At All The Women’ carnival please find more details about it here:
Please take the time to read and comment on the following fab posts submitted by some wonderful women:
‘Fantasy, love and oddity.’ — Cathy Bryant, guest posting at Mother’s Milk Books, shares two of her favourite poems about lovers from her second collection of poetry, Look At All The Women.
‘The Walnut Hearts’ — Marija Smits shares some ‘nutty’ poetry about love and reflects on the role good communication has on a harmonious relationship.
Georgie St Clair shares her feelings on why we should indulge our passions as lovers in her lighthearted post — ‘Creative Lovers: Not Tonight Darling’.
‘The Lovers – Or What I Don’t Know About Love’ — Kimberly Jamison posts to her blog The Book Word what she has learnt about love from story books, people watching and her own life and wonders if she actually knows anything at all.
‘Implicit v Explicit’ — Ana Salote at Colouring Outside the Lines considers literature’s role in teaching children about relationships.