Creative Mothers: The Hardest Job in the World

Creative Mothers: The Worlds Toughest Job

creative-mothers-carnivalWelcome to the ‘Look At All The Women’ Carnival: Week 2 – ‘The Mothers’

This post was written especially for inclusion in the three-week-long ‘Look At All The Women’ carnival, hosted by Mother’s Milk Books, to celebrate the launch of Cathy Bryant’s new book ‘Look At All The Women’. This week our participants share their thoughts on the theme ‘The Mothers’ (the second chapter in Cathy’s poetry collection).

Please read to the end of the post for a full list of carnival participants.

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The Worlds Toughest Job

24 HOUR A DAY, CARER NEEDED

Holiday entitlement – none.
Salary – none. 
Benefits – many
Job Satisfaction – depends on the day.

Applicants are invited to apply for the position of ’24 Hour Carer’.

You will be expected to perform a variety of tasks. This is a challenging role and applicants will need to perform all of the following:

  • General housekeeping duties such as daily cleaning, washing and cooking, 7 days a week.
  • You will possess excellent interpersonal skills as you may be required to translate the needs of your client to others.
  • You’ll have a flair for creativity, designing fun and enjoyable tasks for your clients to participate in daily.
  • As this is a challenging role you will need to be able to problem solve at an instant and change your plans depending on your clients needs.
  • You will have excellent medical knowledge in case of emergencies, choking, cuts, grazes etc.
  • You will also possess excellent counselling skills for some of your older clients who are going through emotional turmoil due to puberty/exams/bullying etc. You must be on call 24 Hours a Day.
  • A full clean driving license is not essential but desirable as you will be expected to be a taxi service, running your client around as they wish or as their needs dictate.

PLEASE NOTE:

  • Applicants must be aware that they will occasionally be bitten, scratched and punched, especially by their younger clients.
  • Food that you cook will be thrown, spat out or told it’s disgusting and the client will refuse to eat it.
  • Older clients may tell you they hate you, you are boring or you may just be invisible most of the time.
  • You’ll also have to get used to feeling guilty that you aren’t doing your job very well, as there won’t be any thanks at the end of the day.

This role is voluntary and expenses will not be reimbursed. Depending on your client, your personal desires and income of your other household associates, you may need to get another job whilst still performing your tasks as outlined above.

You will however, receive hugs and kisses from your clients occasionally. If you are job sharing this role with another household associate (known as a partner or husband) you may get hugs and kisses from them too, but these will be become less frequent due to the needs of your clients. It is advised that you set aside meeting times with your household associates, to discuss the progress of your clients and any future strategies that may need to be put into place.

Closing date not applicable – continuous recruitment.

After reading the above do I really need to say much more about why we need to make time for ourselves?!

As a creative, I’m constantly running a gauntlet between my duties as a wife and mum, alongside the burning creative fire in my belly, that is equally demanding. I want to scream sometimes in fact! However I’ve realised I’m a better mum/wife/artist if I take time to just ‘BE’.

I take daily walks, enjoying the changing seasons. I love taking pictures of flowers. I also have simple rituals. On most days, at 11am I take time to enjoy a fresh coffee. At 3 o’clock I have a cup of tea. I sit down to have them. No multitasking for 10 minutes. I’ll also practice sun salutations a few days a week. Just a simple ritual that’s purely physical, rests my mind and stretches my body.

I’ll leave you with this fantastic video #wordlstoughestjob which explains my point far more articulately than me. Funny & poignant. Enjoy and, Mum’s, give yourself a break.

 

Book cover for Look At All The Women by Cathy Bryant

Look At All The Women by Cathy Bryant

Look At All The Women is now available to buy from:

The Mother’s Milk Bookshop (as a paperback and PDF) – we can ship books around the world!

and as a paperback from Amazon.co.uk.

It can also be ordered via your local bookshop.

If you’d like to get involved in the ‘Look At All The Women’ carnival please find more details about it here:

http://www.mothersmilkbooks.com/carnival-2/

Please take the time to read and comment on the following fab posts submitted by some wonderful women:

‘Moments with Mothers and (Imaginary) Daughters’ — Cathy Bryant, guest posting at Mother’s Milk Books, shares more poetry from Look At All The Women — her own version of Rudyard Kipling’s ‘If’ and a poem inspired by her imaginary daughter.

‘The Cold Cup of Tea’Marija Smits shares some poetry that gives a glimpse into the everyday life of a mother.

‘Creative Mothers: You Need to Stop!’Georgie St Clair, shares an important reminder, that all mothers need to dedicate time and space to be creative.

‘The Mothers – Or Promises to My Future Child’: Kimberly Jamison posts to her blog The Book Word what she has learnt from her own mother, and writes an open letter to her future child.

‘Bonobos are my Heroines’: Ana Salote at Colouring Outside the Lines puts the nature back into nurture.

Stephanie from Beautiful Misbehaviour wants to challenge society’s treatment of the post-birth body.

Helen at Young Middle Age talks about finding strength from thinking about all the other mothers, during hard times.

 

Comments 8

  1. Fantastic post Georgie! And the video is rather wonderful, isn’t it? I must admit I had a tear in my eye at the end.

    It’s also great to hear how you manage to find time for yourself – the simple rituals really are the most enriching aren’t they? Walking, appreciating nature… a hot drink! And I love when you have your coffee and tea times! (On weekends I keep those times too, but on weekdays I tend to make myself a cup of tea after the school run, and then a strong coffee after lunch to get me through the afternoon.)

    Thank you so much for brightening my day with your post 🙂

  2. Ah, but it’s the only job where you love your clients with every fibre of your being.

    You’re quite right about balancing your own needs. Ted Hughes thought he gave himself cancer by restricting his creative output. Comes a point you just have to release it. I managed to do a literature degree and a fair bit of writing when mine were little. I just didn’t bother with housework. I still think of it as highly optional. You’re proof that wife/mum/artist can be done with only the occasional scream.

  3. Brilliant! I wish I could remember where I read this (I’ve paraphrased as I can’t remember it verbatim): “Taking time for yourself is a wonderful lesson for your children. Do you want them to grow up thinking that their creativity and other interests must be stifled if they become a parent? Then show them that you can still have interests – ” (or as you put it, Georgie, still BE! “- when they grow up and have children.”
    I think it was on a writing blog somewhere. It’s so true!
    This post made me laugh and think. Great stuff.

  4. Great post!
    I really like the idea of having a fixed time in the morning and afternoon to have a hot drink – a few years back I’d have rejected that as being horribly routinised, but that was when I was young and feckless and could reliably do anything whenever I wanted to…

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  5. Lovely post. I really believe that time for yourself as a mother is essential, I have to get up before the kids to get it but if I don’t get that time I am cranky all day. Somewhere along the line the message that time to yourself as a mum is selfish crept in and it really needs to be dismantled!

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      I couldn’t agree with you more. I hate how guilty I feel for ‘me’ time! Early morning routines are the best idea. Thanks for stopping by my blog 🙂

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